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Practice for life change. Transformation

It will help you harmonize what is and see perspectives that you did not notice before.

What is personal life? According to Wikipedia: personal life or human existence is an individual personal development.

In the past, before the advent of abundance and the development of technology, personal life consisted mainly of the survival of the individual and society; I needed food and a roof over my head. The survival motive was strongly developed. Nowadays, many people have begun to perceive their personal lives as something separate from work.

In my opinion, personal life is a space that only the owner himself can manage, and where other people have no right to invade with their advice and comments without his consent. That is why I decided to write this article.

Since not every person can find the answer, why is it not like others, why something doesn’t stick, why next to beautiful girl there is no boyfriend, or there is no husband next to a successful lady. Many do not know where to turn for advice, or are not accustomed to trusting their secrets to others. It's up to everyone to accept or not my knowledge. But if you are reading this little work, then you need it.

Today I will talk about the practice of "6 P" - this is a powerful tool of Self - helping yourself to your beloved or loved one.

In my consultations, I primarily give it as homework everyone.
Practice "6 P".

This is a practice for harmonizing personal life.

I named it that way because it consists of 6 actions. And they all start with the letter "P":

Squats, forgiveness of all, request, acceptance of all, singing, bows.

Squats - every day it is important to squat as much as possible, bringing the result to the number 108. This greatly activates the first energy center "Muladhara", which is responsible for the foundation in life, security, survival and health.

Forgiving all those people who have ever offended you, or you have offended them. Everyone knows that resentment originates in the heart energy center. And if it is worn there for years, then it begins to descend into the second chakra "Svadhisthana", which leads to serious problems with personal life and childbearing. Thus, if resentment exists for more than 10 years, then it can provoke serious diseases: fibroids, various tumor diseases, including cancer. The technique is given below. It is very important to remember all offenders (primarily emotionally charged ones) and work through. You need to do it every day until you fully feel the release.

Algorithm for the practice of "Forgiveness": "Lena, please forgive me for being jealous of you." (We say 3 times. "Vasya, I Forgive You for cheating on me." (We say 3 times. Thus, if there are 50-100 offenders, then there will be a lot of work. But this is your life and you yourself are in her owner.So it's up to you.

Request - every day you need to learn how to turn to people with requests, even if they are small ones. Note that if it is extremely difficult for you to do this, it means that pride sits in you. It is she who interferes with the harmonization of personal life. Next to a proud woman who is all "Himself", oh, how hard it is for a man.

Acceptance of all people as they are. You can't change them, you can only direct them. For example, a father walks and grumbles at you, do not resist, listen silently. He will notice the changes and he will begin to change. When there is an explosion of emotions, energy centers often break through in anger, which leads to problems.

Singing is a very pleasant practice. Sing wherever possible: at home, in karaoke, in the car, in the shower. When you sing, important centers are cleansed, the communicative area of your essence is being worked out. You will begin to shine with eloquence and will easily cause a cool emotional state.

Bows. They are important to make mother and father. If this practice is not done, then 2 scenarios are possible in life:
Parental - we repeat the life of parents, if we do not accept or are offended by our father. You will not be able to live better, because you are subconsciously afraid of offending your mother.
Protest - "Just not the way they are" (if you do not accept or are offended by your mother. And then "Rakes" constantly appear in your personal life. One and the same archetypes of men come across on the way.

Practice algorithm: imagine the image of a father or mother, kneel down and touch the forehead with the floor (up to 108 times. First to the mother, then to the father. I call this practice "Bows at 5 Points." It is very difficult for some ladies to do it, tears, snot, there are hysterical breakdowns. It is very difficult for them to crawl. But you must understand that if this process is going on, it means that there are really a lot of blocks in the body and pride too. My dears, I will give one of the last big results: a girl has been married for 6 years, there were no children, 2 Eco didn't work out.She bows to her mother every day for 1 week 24 times, 2 weeks to her father 24 times.After 2 weeks she finds out that she is pregnant, and even with twins.

Only if you work out all 6 aspects, you will see how easy it will be for you to live, new people will begin to appear in your environment, and your personal life will be harmonized.

The heart chakra corresponds to special points on the arms and legs, through which the 4 chakras are activated.

These points are marked in the figure - see photo.

Settle down for the exercise while sitting on the floor or on a fitness mat. Take a comfortable posture with a straight back.

We start the work with the right foot, find the active point on it and gently massage it clockwise with your thumb or forefinger.

After the massage, just lightly press on the active point. Visualize a green ray of light coming from your thumb as you apply pressure to this point. This color is gentle, not too dark, close to the color of the blossoming foliage.

Continue the exercise for 15 seconds. Then do the same with the active points on the left foot, and then on the hands. It helps to unblock the heart chakra.

Opening of anahata. Signs of a healthy anahata

Today, society cultivates the qualities inherent in the lower chakras. The main importance is given to gross animal instincts. They are elevated to the rank of a sacred action, and any alternatives are ridiculed and vulgarized. In this case, the kundalini force will remain dormant, and people will live empty lives, devoid of love and happiness. Fortunately, in recent years, more and more people are interested in the spiritual world, having abandoned the harsh materialism that is so fashionable these days. Yoga is becoming more and more popular, people began to look for happiness in themselves, and not in money and beautiful trinkets. This gives hope for a happy future. The more people awaken their anahata, the more love and kindness will be on our planet, tormented by conflicts and hatred. When kundalini reaches the heart chakra, boundless love comes into a person's life. The manifestation of kindness and compassion is the next step in the development of our civilization. Everyone can contribute to this wonderful process by embodying these high feelings.

Signs of a closed heart chakra. What blocks the heart chakra

There are many signs that the Anahata Chakra is blocked:

tearfulness,
fatigue,
shortness of breath (chest tightness)
irritability,
touchiness,
anger,
conflict,
"victim" complex
self dissatisfaction,
anxiety,
loneliness (may be accompanied by unrequited love),
excessive desire to be nice to others.

The flow of energy in the region of the heart can be not only insufficient, but also excessive.

Serious disharmony of the energy center of love in the body manifests itself as a number of diseases:

all cardiovascular diseases (including the most common cause of death today - heart attack),
depression,
skin diseases,
weakened immunity,
thoracic spine problems
breast disease (breast cancer in women),
lung disease,
diseases of the thymus (thymus),
hand problems.

The heart chakra is blocked by all the negative emotions experienced by a person in relation to himself or other people:

All these and other similar negative emotions are contrary to the nature of love, they are not love.

Exercises to open the heart chakra

Close your eyes. Take a few deep breaths in and out. Now imagine how in the area of your heart there is a flower that begins to gradually open. When the flower opens, it becomes larger, and you begin to feel how a stream of heat or light is pouring from your heart, and it goes easily, effortlessly. This flow surrounds you, envelops you and… pours back into you. That is, you generate a flow that feeds you. If you regularly practice this exercise, you will notice how more love will become in your life: you will bathe in it! Love “by itself” for people will appear: when you experience joy from the person himself, from the very fact that he exists, from his laughter, and not from some of his achievements. Your body will begin to vibrate differently, higher. The space of love - this is a great support!

The chakra is located in the center of the chest, near the heart. Anahata is an energy mediator between the chakras. It regulates the downward and upward flow of energy in the body.

The following human principles merged in Anahata:

The symbol of the heart chakra is a twelve-petalled lotus. In the center of the lotus are two triangles - point up and point down. The six vertices of the triangles symbolize the five senses and human consciousness. The downward pointing triangle symbolizes the three male energy channels. The other triangle signifies the three feminine channels.

Anahata symbol - green lotus

At the physical level, the energy center is responsible for the work of:

Sensory cognition of the world depends on the state of Anahata. The purpose of the heart chakra is to unite beings through love.

The depth of compassion depends on the degree of openness of the chakra. When Anahata is developed, a pink hue appears in the aura. This speaks of the ability of the healer. Such a person acts out of concern and empathy for the creations of the Creator.

With a developed heart chakra, a person easily makes contact. Fear, doubt and hatred in relationships are traces of negative energy affecting the subtle body. An open Anahata cleanses the subtle body of destructive power.

Anahata is full of love

Anahata teaches fidelity in relationships and the ability to love without selfishness and calculation. The human heart opens, filling the subtle body with the energy of Creation. A similar feeling arises when people see art objects.

With the discovery of Anahata, thinking changes. Chakra teaches to see the beauty of the universe and understand the divine order. The heart energy center gives a person harmony with himself and with the outside world.

Video lesson about the fourth chakra:

What is the subtle body

The heart is a subtle mental body that accumulates the energy of green and pink hues. Open chakra glows in green. Pink appears when healer abilities are unlocked.

The subtle body of Anahata affects:

emotions;
the opportunity to express oneself;
thinking.

For the development of the subtle body, it is important to learn something new, comprehend it and share it with people. Useful scientific work and meditation.

Webinar on working with the Anahata body:

What element

The heart chakra belongs to the air element. Air is responsible for life processes and creative energy in the subtle body.

The air element corresponds to spring

It is in harmony with the elements of Fire and Water and hardly interacts with the Earth. Air corresponds to spring, when air energy is most strongly manifested.

Anahata and hormones

The work of the thymus gland depends on the state of the fourth chakra. It is located in the chest and is divided into two hemispheres.

In newborns, the thymus gland reaches a huge size. It actively produces a hormone that strengthens the immune system. When a person turns 15, the secretion of the hormone stops, the gland decreases in size and ceases to function.

Doctors believe that thanks to the thymus gland, children live to adolescence. The fragile body of the baby does not tolerate the effects of bacteria and infections. Anahata stimulates the secretion of the hormone until the child gets stronger.

Exercises to activate the thymus gland:

Improper functioning of the chakras can lead to deterioration in many areas of life. Blocked chakras manifest as health problems, relationship problems, and so on. To prevent the occurrence of such situations - let's figure out how we block our chakras.

This chakra, which is responsible for vitality, practicality, is blocked by fear. Problems with Muladhara speak of the defeated Mercury. To unlock Muladhara, you must not hide from your fears, but look into their "eyes". Stop worrying about being afraid of something. Understand what exactly you are afraid of, determine the object of your fear, begin to deal with the shortcomings that provoke this fear in you. For example, if you are afraid to look stupid - this indicates the presence of complexes and painful pride. Work on it.

The chakra is responsible for the satisfaction of needs, attraction, creativity. Planet - Venus. Svadhisthana blocks the feeling of guilt. The destructive energy of this feeling can cause serious illness. To unblock the chakra, you need to understand the true reason why you feel guilty and receive forgiveness. If this is a fault before a loved one - talk to him about it, if you blame yourself - sincerely forgive yourself for everything.

This chakra is ruled by Mars. Manipura is responsible for willpower, aspirations. Speaking about how we block chakras, we must understand that poorly functioning chakras always affect human health. So, when blocking Manipura, problems with digestion can be observed. The reason for the blockage of this chakra is a feeling of shame and, as a result, disappointment. Do not hide this problem in the depths of your soul - think about what makes you ashamed and answer yourself the question - do you really need to be ashamed?

The chakra is responsible for compassion, is involved in all life processes. The organ is the heart (incorrect work of the chakra, first of all, is visible in heart diseases), the planet is the Moon. Anahata is blocked by the feeling of grief, and this blockage is the most difficult to remove. The fact is that along with grief, a person experiences apathy - indifference to what is happening, and therefore powerlessness in the face of the difficulties of life. You will have to use your willpower as much as possible to overcome the feeling of grief and return to normal life.

This chakra is responsible for the interaction of a person with others, for his position in society. Planet - Saturn. When blocked, the metabolism in the body is disturbed. Vishuddhu blocks lies, especially self-deception. Try to live consciously, soberly look at the world and at yourself. Be honest with others and, most importantly, with yourself. Illusions are not as harmless as they seem. Remember - a bitter truth is better than a sweet lie.

The sixth chakra is responsible for wisdom, spirituality, is closely related to the subconscious. The ruling planet of Ajna is Jupiter. Blockage of this chakra is inevitable if a person overestimates his strength and strives to achieve not what he really needs, but what others have. You need to accept yourself for who you are and not try to be better. Stop chasing after others, take on exorbitant obligations and attribute to yourself qualities that you do not have. Develop what you already have, improve yourself, and you will receive in full all the benefits that are intended for you.

Chakra Sahasrara is responsible for the connection of a person with the Higher Forces, the energy of the Universe. Planet - Sun. Obsession with material goods is what blocks this chakra. Excessive attachment to material values has a destructive effect on the work of the Sahasrara. To unblock the chakra, pay attention to your internal development: meditate, read relevant literature, start gaining knowledge that will be useful for your soul.

After learning how we block chakras, analyze your condition to understand which chakras you have problems with and start working on them right now!

Video Practice for the harmonization of the first chakra (muladhara).

Anahata - love chakra

Anahata is called the chakra of love, and it would fit the role of the most important, because love is the best that has ever been available to mankind. By working with Anahata, one can revive self-love and harmonize both the outer and inner worlds.

Of course, other chakras are also important, but love occupies one of the main roles. Because of love, wars happened, and it was love that reconciled everyone. We receive love at birth, with mother's milk. All discoveries were made with love for their work. We are surrounded by this feeling everywhere, and it is this feeling that is the most powerful universal tool.

How to open the love chakra

Anahata is the heart chakra, and it is not in vain that it also governs love feelings. The well-being of the heart, affairs on the personal front, and harmony with the world depend on the state of this energy center. Anahata is not responsible for physical attraction, but for spiritual affection.

For correct operation with this chakra there is an easy meditation that you can do every night before going to bed or after waking up. It is considered ideal if you do this meditation both in the morning and in the evening. Meditating in the morning, you activate Anahata, and luck and happiness will accompany you throughout the day. In the evening, meditation will help cleanse the accumulated negativity, relieve tension and have a restful sleep.

Meditation on love for yourself and the world

First you need to choose a time so that no one bothers you. Despite the fact that sometimes meditation takes only a couple of minutes, you must be sure that no one will distract you from the process.

Take a comfortable position. You can sit on a chair or lie down on a bed. Relax, take a few deep breaths in and out. Smile at yourself and the world, feel harmony and calmness.

At the second stage, imagine how your love reached its destination, and everyone responds to you. Feel the warmth return to you, multiplied a hundredfold, and accept it. Thank you all for the love. And you can return to reality and get down to business.

Do not be upset if the first time you fail to open the chakra. Perhaps you are skeptical, and then you need to learn until you succeed. Or you are so used to sharing love that you simply do not accept the fact that it can still be accepted from someone. So pay special attention to doing the second part of the meditation. Try to feel as best as you can how the world responds to you. It is so unusual for someone to receive love in return just like that, that trying to shut down seems like a natural habit.

In everything, the most important thing is to find a golden mean. And the golden mean of the Anahata chakra is the ability to both give and receive love. Each of us wants to love and be loved, but nothing will work until you start by loving yourself. By denying yourself, you deny the love of the world. It is these people who most often feel unhappy. Develop your this bright feeling, give it to others, and they will reciprocate. And don't forget to press the buttons and

Sometimes you want to change something in your life, to find the treasured key to the door that will open the way to true happiness. But in reality, it is not so easy to implement this plan - a lot of various excuses and difficulties that arise on our way make us once again abandon our dreams. We bring to your attention a plan for a month, with the help of which you will be able to change your life thanks to daily efforts.

How to change your life in 4 weeks: a detailed guide

For each week of the plan, three tasks are given that you must implement into your life. You need to adhere to such rules throughout the month, but it is better to follow them constantly.

Week 1. Purification of mind and body

Early rise (about 6 am). With the help of an early rise, you will be able to take time for yourself, because often during the day it is sorely lacking. It is in the morning that no one will distract you and you can go about your business in a calm atmosphere. Laziness and unwillingness to get up so early are not indicators of fatigue at all. In fact, such a reaction is a sign that you do not want to live your life.

Why get out of bed if the sky is overcast, then ride in a crowded subway, drag in traffic, do boring work. If you think “it would be more morning, a new day,” getting up early is unlikely to continue to be such a problem. Interestingly, this pattern can work both ways. Life is full - getting up in the morning will become easy. Get up easily in the morning - life will become eventful.

Lightweight nutrition. To change your life you need to stock up on a lot of energy. Therefore, you have to choose the type of food that seems to you the most correct. Keep in mind that you need to completely eliminate alcohol, cigarettes, junk food and processed foods from your new life. Also try to reduce your portions and do not fill up before bed.

Sport. Spiritual health cannot be formed in the absence of tone and health of the physical body. To "get moving" it is best to use dancing, running and yoga. Try to move as much as possible - when getting ready for work, dance in front of a mirror, walk more often, etc.

Week 2. Cleansing space, affairs and environment

Space cleansing. To change your life, you need to throw away all unnecessary things and just throw them away, not hide them. Do not deprive any locker of attention, because each thing takes not only part of the place, but also part of your energy. Leave only what inspires and pleases you. Try to get rid of everything superfluous - it will immediately become much easier for you.

Purification of affairs and obligations. Surely everyone has some kind of intention or even several of those that have not been fulfilled for a long time. For example, you are going to learn foreign language, but all hands do not reach. Or visit relatives living in a neighboring state. Now your goal is to remember all the promises that you made both to yourself and to other people and decide what to do with them. There are only 2 here possible options- the first is to bring each case to the end, the second is to abandon this idea forever. The bottom line is that you need to get things done as soon as possible, instead of carrying a load of responsibility and dissatisfaction with yourself.

Cleansing the environment. Try to end all relationships that are holding you back and making you depressed. What gives you communication with eternally dissatisfied people who criticize everything and everyone? To change your life, clear the environment of people with whom you have nothing in common and from whom there is nothing to learn.

Week 3. Dreams, plans and goals

List of unrealistic dreams. To complete this exercise, you need to make a wish list, collect all the dreams that are not destined to come true. They are so transcendent and cool that it is very difficult to believe in their reality. The main thing here is to turn off the inner critic, that all the possibilities of the world are at your feet.

Daily plan. Every evening you need to make a plan for the next day. It can be short, its volume does not play a special role. The main condition is to write this plan in the evening, even if you don’t remember it in the morning, your productivity will increase in any case.

Fulfillment of assigned tasks. Take a look at the list of goals and objectives that you made, say, a week ago. If it does not evoke positive emotions in you and the desire to immediately begin to complete each item, it may be time to cross out something, and instead add something that makes everything inside tremble with anticipation. The ideal to-do list is not only work planning and financial allocation, but also relaxing with friends, and most importantly, time dedicated to yourself. Your goal is to make such a plan, at the sight of which your hands will itch and your knees will tremble.

Week 4

Live differently. Any little things will do - you can go a new way to work, go to a very expensive store or an unfamiliar cafe, sign up for some section. In general, in order to change your life, you need to start doing something that you have never done before. Always try to do things a little differently when you're doing what you're used to. It is important to develop the habit of constantly trying new things.
Say goodbye to your comfort zone. If you managed to complete all the previous points, you have already done a good job on yourself, but now is the time to face your fears. For example, if you are afraid of heights - dare to parachute jump, if you are afraid of the company of strangers - attend a large-scale party (without girlfriends and friends).
Give yourself a break. Leave your cozy home, turn off your phone and go somewhere nice. Be alone with yourself and your thoughts - evaluate the situation and the changes that have happened to you, have you managed to change your life?

It is not difficult to follow all the rules described in the article, but by integrating them into your life, you will be able to find true harmony and be able to find the right path.

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1) RPKDS RP UUSCHMLE CHPRTPUB ABOUT UBKF AskMe.ru;
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IDES 2. UFP FBLPE UGEOBTYK?

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and F.D.

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Lucy hastily painted her lips. She was late for the main event in her life - training personal growth. Why is it important? Because then there will be a NEW life! Successful, active, bright.

Zinaida Stepanovna stared blankly into the mirror. 45 - woman berry again. That's just this hopeless longing, fatigue and hopelessness. Nothing. Valery Ivanovich is a good psychologist. He will definitely help!

Antonina barely came (creeped) home from work. Late. “It’s very hard to walk, I should lose weight,” she thought, settling herself in front of the TV with a serving of naval pasta. “Now I’m tired, but from Monday I’m sure!”

Who among us has not started new life from Monday, from the first day, or at least from the New Year? Thousands of identical stories about unfulfilled expectations. What happens to the best intentions and motivations? Why can someone change their life dramatically, once and for all, while someone fails to take even one small step towards a new self?

What is required for cardinal changes in life:

The realization that "I don't want to live like this anymore." Most of us are fine with this. A person suddenly realizes that he works at an unloved job, lives with an unloved person, there is not enough money for anything, etc. It is very difficult to live with the awareness of lack without change. It is the lack of something (mental or material) that starts the process of human development. If a person is aware of the lack of something, but does nothing to get what he wants, gray pessimism and dissatisfaction with the current situation, envy of those who are better, anger, resentment, etc. appear.

Determination of the goal - "I want to live like this." This is from the realm of dreams and desires. But my mother used to say so often in childhood, “It’s not harmful to dream!” That’s why many dreams remain dreams. Those who are ready to put them into practice move on to the next stage.
Development of a plan to achieve the goal. Stick to it strictly, without making any exceptions for any reason. This requires all the willpower and endurance.
Consolidation of a new achieved position, holding positions. There is an opinion that for the assimilation of any new habit 21 days is enough. It is during this period that new neural connections are formed.
It is important throughout all stages of transformation from awareness to consolidation - to have unlimited, unconditional faith in yourself, your strengths and capabilities.

Everything seems to be simple, but often no one goes further than the first point. Why? Because cardinal changes require great mental strength and courage. The psyche is arranged in such a way that any change is perceived as a threat to the existing situation. You will unconsciously do everything possible to prevent yourself from becoming different. Any person faces personal internal resistance every day. It manifests itself in everything: in the unwillingness to get out of bed in the morning, in the unwillingness to read the right book or learn the language, in the search for excuses from playing sports, in postponing for tomorrow everything that can (and cannot) be put off. We explain this to ourselves as laziness or procrastination, we make new promises to ourselves in order not to fulfill them again. Or do it tomorrow. Internal resistance works outside the will and desire of a person and is so strong that it even harms him physically. For example, people who decide to go to a psychotherapist to improve family relationships begin to be late for sessions, forget about them, or even get sick and accidentally get injured - anything, just to avoid therapy, to avoid changes. This is the force that prevents the assimilation of new knowledge and habits.

A week after the training, Lucy did not find the opportunity to complete all her homework and practices and returned to her usual way of life.

Zinaida Stepanovna went to see Valery Ivanovich once. Expensive. And is it possible to change something at 45? The sun of life turned to sunset... I bought myself a new blouse.

Antonina still comes late from work and watches TV in the evening, combining the news with dinner. There is no time for anything else.

Do you think those who managed to change their lives have no internal resistance? Eat! they just learned to work with him and overcome themselves. The beginning of any transformation is the exit from the comfort zone. This is an area of living space that gives a feeling of comfort, coziness and security. Everything around is familiar and familiar. A state in which a person lives by inertia for years. And low wages, and boring work, and being overweight and unloved nearby, and much more - this is a comfort zone.

To leave it, you need to overcome a number of difficulties associated with the work of internal resistance:

1. Understand what is preventing you from changing. What are your feelings about this?

2. Realize what comfort can be for you, a secondary benefit from the existing situation. There can be many examples, for example:

Excess weight helps to justify loneliness, dislike of others, to seize everything possible problems and resentment;
The disease calls on others to love, sympathize and pity, to take care, so you can feel significant for other people, become the center of life for relatives;
An unloved job can meet the expectations of parents, receive their recognition, implement destructive life scenarios;
An unloved person next to you helps to avoid responsibility for your life. It's his fault that everything is bad with you, it's he who ruined your whole life.

In any case, the secondary benefit from the unfavorable state of affairs is in some way justifying oneself and trying to manipulate other people, inability and unwillingness to take responsibility for oneself and one's life, inability to take care of oneself and a manifestation of dislike for oneself.

3. Conquer your fears about future change. For example:

Fear of failure. What if it doesn't work?! Fear of failure is associated with a lack of such experience or with the presence of a negative experience of change. Well, yes, I was on diets last year and the year before, so what? It is important to understand here that failure as such does not exist. There is just experience. If it doesn't work one way, then you need to try another. The one who does nothing makes no mistakes.
Fear of criticism. And suddenly everyone will laugh, scoff, tease? In any case, with major life changes, there will be those who will criticize you. For their own, for various reasons that have nothing to do with you. Therefore, it is better to change your inner position to the fear of criticism. For example, they only criticize lucky people who have achieved something. So you are on the right way. It makes sense to listen only to those who can help and support your change.

4. Take the first step. You cannot change your past, but you can change your future! The main rule in expanding your comfort zone is to take small, small steps, but constantly, without changing your goal, moving towards it all the time. Here, personal praise for oneself, and reward prizes, and an external assistant can help.

Remember that a journey of 1000 steps starts with the first step. And if it is difficult to do it yourself, you can always contact a specialist who knows what resistance is and how to work with it.

With all my heart I wish everyone going to master their path!
Note. All characters and names are fictitious. Any matches are random!

How to write diary entries? I use this wording: "Thank you for the fact that ..." and then you can add anything you want.

Gratitude Diary

This same practice helped me find a job that defined everything. further direction of my life. Thanks to her, I personally met the person who inspired me to travel long before we met. I owe this technique the realization of my dream.

All of this came to me when I started keeping a gratitude journal. Accidents are not accidental, or How I decided to experiment

It was a difficult period in my life. I then moved to another city, practically without money. Miraculously, I immediately found a job with a good salary. But I didn't have time for anything but her. I left home at 9 am and returned at about 10 pm. I had enough strength to go to the shower, have dinner and fall into bed (precisely fall).

Days turned into weeks and months. There was no light at the end of this tunnel.

At that moment, a few days apart, I came across two videos where two different people were talking about how the power of gratitude affected their lives. Their stories inspired me and I decided to check if it really works so cool.

The essence of the experiment that I came up with was to write 1000 thanks and see what happens.

The first results appeared three days later.

My mood has improved significantly. I felt satisfied for no apparent reason and just enjoyed life. And before all the time he walked gloomy.

There were also side effects: the owner of the apartment said that she was raising the cost of housing. She later doubled her rent. But more on that later.

Rapid changes. New job

I diligently continued to keep a diary and one of the most frequent entries there was:“Thank you for making money through the Internet and doing what I like.”

In fact, there was no smell of making money on the Internet at that time: I worked as a shop assistant household appliances, but only dreamed about Internet work. But it didn't take long for my dreams to come true.

I wrote to him and after a short Skype conversation, I decided to sign up for the training. I paid for the training, wrote a letter of resignation and began to wait for the start of the training.

On July 1, I quit my job at the store, started training on finding a job on the Internet, and after three weeks I found it (now I realize that I was very lucky).

I started working with a man whose blog I had been reading for several years. His travel reports different countries inspired me so much that I set a goal to go to Asia.

And now he has become my employer! Before that, I went through one of his trainings and I had his contacts. I wrote to him and offered my help. My suggestion was right on target. It turned out that the person who held the position for which I applied had just left the project and they urgently needed new employee to the vacant seat.

It `s Magic!

When I mastered new profession, the owner of the apartment raised the cost of rent again, and we, as a neighbor, decided that it was time to look for new housing. In my gratitude diary, regular entries “Thank you for the wonderful apartment in which I live” appeared.

We soon found our new home.

Before that, we lived in an apartment where repairs were made for the last time immediately after the construction of the house, and the furniture was falling apart from old age. And they moved to a new large "kopeck piece" in a new building, with furniture and household appliances. At the same time, its cost was the same as the cost of our previous apartment before all the increases!

It was hard to believe. Our friends said that this was unrealistic, that there were no such prices in the city even for a one-room apartment.

This was my first experience with a gratitude diary.

Later, I repeated this practice a few more times. So, for example, I went to Thailand and lived on Koh Samui for nine months. There I met many interesting people, including with the person for whom I worked, and thanks to whom I had a dream to travel.

Now I have resumed journaling, and there is a lot of magic in my life again.

It is difficult to describe in words the feeling that arises when you make entries in a diary regularly. There is the concept of “achieving the goal”, but here everything is the other way around - the goal reaches you by itself.

How to write a gratitude diary

In fact, there are no strict rules. In any case, I have not met them. The recommendations I give are based on my personal experience. They will help you understand how you can use the gratitude journal and perhaps inspire your own ideas.

What can you be thankful for?

You can thank for anything and anyone, for example:

remember all the pleasant moments of the day and thank for them;

remember all the pleasant moments in life and also thank for them;

thank the people with whom you communicate;

thank the universe (god, life, world, etc.) for what you want to have, as if you already have it;

Be sure to thank yourself.

In what form to keep a diary: electronic or paper?

At first I kept a diary in in electronic format. Later I switched to a paper version - I prefer to write down my thanks with a pen. You can choose the method you like best. I don't think it matters much.

How to get what you want with the diary?

My position is this: our world is abundant, and if we can imagine something, then it is real. And the practice of gratitude only helps to manifest this in reality.

Is it effective to achieve goals using this technique?

My experience is that yes. In fact, there are many techniques for achieving goals and you can use any. In order to use any technique, you need to understand which final result you want and go to him.

Writing a daily goal in a diary in the form of gratitude allows you to keep the goal in focus, and the power of gratitude accelerates its implementation. Therefore, you can combine this technology with any other that you already use.

How to understand that the diary is working?

You will notice it yourself. New acquaintances and people will begin to appear in your life who will help you realize your goal. There will also be pleasant events and surprises. The main thing is to keep track of all this and feel real gratitude for every bonus from the universe - then there will be even more of them.

It's like magic - you don't need to know and write down all the steps in advance to achieve the goal, everything happens by itself.

In the apartment example, we did not search for it. We just told our friends about the situation and said we wanted to find a new place to live. And it was found almost immediately.

How to write diary entries?

I use this wording: "Thank you for the fact that ..." and then you can add anything you want.

You can take this one or come up with your own.

How many entries do you make per day?

I usually do 20 entries. Sometimes more, sometimes less. But mostly I focus on this figure.

What if I'm deeply depressed right now, I don't feel any gratitude, and I can't bring myself to write anything?

I recommend that you forcefully write 100 thanks in one sitting. Remember all the pleasant things that happened in your life, thank all your relatives, friends and just acquaintances, and also thank yourself for everything that you can remember. This will help relieve depression and move forward.. published