A way to live your life without regret. Visual Aid: How to Live a Life Without Regrets

In our youth, we believe that a great future awaits us, and our exploits will remain in history. We will be smarter than our parents and will be able not to repeat their mistakes in creating a family, raising children, in a career ... We will do right choice! Everything seems to be possible. But as the years go by, the possibilities diminish. We miss favorable opportunities.

And then comes the time of the first big regrets: “I should have…”, “I would be able to…”. We are haunted by the feeling that we could have done differently. But this is hardly true, since the choice of solutions is limited. This is evidenced by one of the "basic presuppositions", that is, the main assumptions of neurolinguistic programming.

"Any behavior the best choice available in this moment time options, - emphasizes the family psychologist and NLP master Elena Ulitova. - In the future, we may get more opportunities - due to a change in circumstances or our beliefs. But in the past, we chose the best option we had at the time.”

Only time

And there is an irresistible force acting on us, forcing us to embellish the past and quickly forget the state of mind in which we made this or that decision. “I should have married Sergei! He is so kind and caring,” Elena, 40, tells herself. And she does not remember that 15 years ago she was so in love with Peter that she did not think about anyone else.

In addition, our "I" has a complex and contradictory structure; while following some of our values, we ignore others.

We live everything at once, for the first time and without preparation. As if an actor were playing their part in a play without any rehearsal.

At 42, Galina, despite the fact that she likes life in marriage, as well as teaching, constantly returns to the same topic: “I think that maybe I went to physics and mathematics in vain - that’s what my parents wanted, both mathematicians, they took turns coaching me. But I liked literature no less, and I certainly had the ability: my writings were read more than once in front of the class.

And I also regret that I didn’t divorce my first husband earlier: although we quarreled endlessly and he was very rude to me, I told myself every time that he had a kind soul and you just need to be patient. My parents said the same thing, and I didn't want to disappoint them. But I became much happier when I got divorced. And ten years later I met a man whom I fell in love with and who became my second husband. But all this could have happened sooner.”

Every choice we make is a rejection of other paths. “If earlier they spoke about the bifurcation point, where the system moves to a new level, today the term “polyfurcation” is used: we are talking about a whole fan of options,” says culturologist Nina Yagodintseva. But realizing the multiplicity of opportunities that open up, we also understand that we will not be able to try them one after another. The room for doubt is also expanding.

“There is no way to check which solution is better,” notes Milan Kundera in The Unbearable Lightness of Being, “because there is no comparison. We live everything at once, for the first time and without preparation. It's like an actor playing his part in a play without any rehearsal."

Road to a Living Heart

“I should have continued my studies”, “I should have spent more time with my parents and children”, “Oh, if only I knew that…”, “Why was I so frivolous?”. Perhaps behind these questions and thoughts lies something more than just regret: an attempt to return to the true meaning of one's life, the search for which Carl Gustav Jung called "a specifically human need."

A state similar to this is described by Alexander Grin in the philosophical novel “Running on the Waves” (although, unlike Jung, he does not refer to middle age): “Sooner or later, in old age or at the dawn of strength, the Unfulfilled calls us, and we look around, trying to understand where the call came from. Then, waking up in the midst of our world, painfully recollecting ourselves and cherishing every day, we peer into life, trying with all our being to see if the Unfulfilled is starting to come true? Is his image not clear? Is it not now only necessary to reach out a hand to grab and hold his faintly flickering features?

There are not many choice points in life, but we can accumulate the potential to act more effectively at the next such point.

This experience can hardly be called pleasant, in truth, it is often painful, “but it brings us back to ourselves, to the living heart of our “I,” Elena Ulitova notes. Jung talks about trying to throw off social masks, return to his essence and, with luck, embody it in social life.

These attempts are not always successful, but if they are at least done, they can save us from the much bitter regrets that nurse Bronnie Way, author of The Five Regrets of the Dying, wrote about: while caring for terminally ill patients in a hospice, she asked them what they regret most.

The top five regrets relate to missed opportunities to be yourself and love loved ones. “I should have trusted my intuition more, followed my desires and expressed dissatisfaction, and not behave as the environment expected me to.” Then: “It was necessary to work less and devote more time to relatives and friends.” Then: “I should show my love to people around me, say “I love you” to my husband and children more often.”

Fourth on the list is the regret of losing relationships with longtime friends. And finally, we get angry at ourselves for not being decisive enough and being afraid of change.

For my benefit

The optimists, with their positive perception of themselves and the world, fare better than the perfectionists, who are always dissatisfied because they do not fit their terribly demanding “ideal self”. But regret, like all our emotions, has a benefit: if we make an effort to get rid of automatic cyclical thoughts, we can learn from all that we consider failures. "There are no mistakes, there are Feedback”, - Elena Ulitova recalls another postulate of NLP. It remains only to decipher it.

“Regrets indicate that something valuable for us is left in the past,” says Nina Yagodintseva. - It's sad, but thanks to this we can see the present more clearly, appreciate what we have here and now, and rejoice. But sometimes regrets refer to the fact that at the decisive moment we gave up, did not act at the maximum of our abilities. There are not so many choice points in life, but we can accumulate the potential to act more effectively at the next such point.”

But after all there are opportunities missed irretrievably? In the film “What else do men talk about”, the janitor recalls how in childhood he wanted to become an astronaut ... “If our desire continues to live inside regrets, then we can bring it to the light of consciousness and look for a way to realize it in the current circumstances,” Elena Ulitova is convinced. - Most likely, it will not be possible to fly into space at the age of 60, this is true, and it remains to be taken for granted. But why not ask yourself later: how can I make my dream of space come true now?

We will start getting acquainted with research, buy a telescope and begin to share observations on social networks, build models of rockets, write science fiction stories, compose space music.

3 techniques to stop regretting the past

Create a better present: we evaluate our past based on what we experience in the present. Events do not change, but our attitude towards them does. The idea of ​​"reverse time" was proposed by the philosopher Pavel Florensky in his work "Iconostasis": "Time can indeed be ... turned from the future to the past, from consequences to causes." We see the past as a precondition for the present. Therefore, if our goals are achieved, then we consider even past failures as hardening, a test of strength, an experience that gave the concept of compassion...

The present is in our power, and by choosing our path today, we can change the meaning of everything that has happened to us before.

Meditation: the idea of ​​running backwards in time can make you dizzy. Fortunately, there are other, more gentle ways. For example, according to psychotherapist Christophe André (author of the best-selling book Art and Meditation: 24 Lessons That Transform Lives Day by Day), mindfulness meditation can help us: its point is to make an effort to live in the present, and not in the past, as often as possible. After all, the past is a time of regret.

A wish list: you can also try bucket list. This phrase comes from the phrase "kick the bucket", which literally translates as "kick the bucket", but means "stretch your legs." It gained fame thanks to the Rob Reiner film Until I Played the Box, in which the characters of Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman discuss desires. To discover our own, we should ask ourselves questions: “What is really important to me?”, “What would I do if I knew that I had one day / six months / a year left to live?”, “How would my life be different if I could satisfy all my desires without thinking about expenses?”

But be that as it may, reflections on missed opportunities are inherent in us by nature itself and are an inevitable component of the human psyche.

LIFE WITHOUT REGRETS.
(about illusions and manipulators)

And immediately, the main thesis.
Life without regrets is a lethargic dream of consciousness
wandering in the labyrinths of illusions.
And to put it simply and rudely - this is part of the indifference,
so actively popularized in our time as a solution to internal problems.
Conscious brain euthanasia.
A life that rejects regrets is a road to nowhere.
Moreover, it is a path that does not exist, due to the lack of movement.
There are a few possible causes that make a person a sluggish inert matter,
interior life cycle which is stopped (after all, reflection is not life).

Option one.
Somewhere somehow suddenly experiencing relief from the "reset"
(maybe alcohol got just "in the subject";
maybe touching on some pseudo-spiritual or psychological practices;
maybe, having experienced the influence of another "advanced" natural scientist)
a person discovers the pleasure of an asthenic state,
which comes after the acceptance "but it wouldn't have gone all ..."
As you know, in the cerebral cortex there are areas
responsible for pleasure.
The mechanism starts and that's it - they flew, swam, rushed - you're stoned.
It doesn't matter what turned it on in the first place.
The important thing is that you turn it on yourself.
High becomes your need to satisfy pleasure
Perishing "primary" or "secondary" - this already does not matter.
The main thing is to achieve the desired state of lightness, carelessness.
with the obligatory removal of any responsibility for themselves.
And now, - "from the screw", you are at the peak, you have an arrival.
Life is colorful. Are you happy.
Isn't this a dream? Isn't that her purpose?
this very life to be in the service of pleasures? ..
And you do it over and over. Regrets??.. What is this?..
Consciousness sleeps sweetly. His dreams are wonderful.
And nothing more is needed.

Option two.
The man was crippled as a child. Morally.
Any mental trauma (however, like many of us to varying degrees,
after all, an ideal childhood is a rare case) of trauma,
which a person could not overcome due to the lack of a strong foundation -
"God-the world-people" (precisely in this clearly arranged hierarchy).
Our human world is one big seismic zone.
Without a strong, and most importantly, correctly calculated structure of the world order -
just do not survive, do not maintain its integrity.
The wind blew - shook. Tremors - destruction.
And the hurricane is the end! All.
Of course, someone may object, how do we know what it is,
CORRECT idea of ​​the world order?
But it's easier than it seems. After all, absolutely everything in the world is learned by experience.
If this is not the case, then there is a high probability that you are delusional, or deliberately lying to yourself.
It is easy to check the truth of your ideas.
Just answer to yourself without guile,
Are your inner channels open for the flow of peace, positive, harmony?
Do you feel filled with these qualities?
The main guideline is whether this is reflected in the external layout of your life in order,
clarity, problem solving?
Does it affect the global state of affairs? .. No, not speculative in your head,
but really, creatively - life becomes stable, measured,
or at least understandable to you (after all, this is YOUR life! who,
no matter how you have to understand it "what's what" and take the reins of government into your own hands)? ..
So how? .. What do you say?
Here's your check.
Everything that is not confirmed in reality is speculation and a mediocre waste of vital energy.
A person who has not got rid of fears, or, more simply, complexes,
incapable of directing his life just as much,
how long these complexes hold him. But there is always feedback
without which fears cannot survive. This is the man himself, who is very caring
feeds them, tenaciously holding on and, paradoxically,
learning to balance in such a cramped position.
It is not simple. Painfully. And then it would seem - let go - but live yourself free.
But no. This requires courage and work, the desire and willingness to be reborn and reshape yourself.
It takes real creativity to do that.
curiosity and even the spirit of adventurism.
And such people are extremely cowardly.
They became defective not because they experienced difficulties in childhood,
but because they voluntarily agreed to such a life
with multiplying, like cockroaches, ugly consequences, deformations of the personality.
However, by the nature of his psyche, it is not common for a person to be in an unstable posture.
And then he finds a way out, launches an illusion into the brain in order to bring himself to a state of some kind of balance.
Where is their source of these illusions? It is unlikely that anyone will answer this question.
The gigantic information field of our planet contains such a number of thought forms,
such a symbiosis of different ingredients ..!
Just grab it, squeeze it in your fist and that's it. She's all yours. Illusion.
Or rather, you find yourself in her power. Fully.
And under her control.

Illusion is a small seed that, once in fertile soil,
instantly takes root, starting to grow actively, filling the whole person.
What do we end up with?
Life, way of thinking, reality, tweaked, painted and painted
in the image and likeness of inferiority, which is a great craftswoman to compose fairy tales.
She is protecting herself in this way because she is paranoid.
before facing reality.
What are the regrets?
This will put the existence of inferiority in jeopardy.
Deadly dangerous.
So inferiority is the cause with a syringe filled with a tranquilizer
for a disoriented mind.
The effect of injections is 100%!

Third option.
The simplest and lying on the visible surface is pride.
Oh, how it flatters the mind and excites the ego to come up with an attractive ideology.
and live with it (in it), convincing the naive consciousness,
that a substituted stencil for what is happening in time and space
and there is the same reality.
True. The only true one.
And it doesn't matter that the image peeping through the stencil
completely inconsistent with the shape of the slots.
Here rises from unseen depths the ancient instinct of the pagan.
In fact, it is so easy for a person to replace God with himself,
change and worship him.
It's also convenient to be a god for yourself.
Alpha and Omega. Cause and effect rolled into one.
Extremely high above the earth, above people, above everything ..!
And further, after such a grand exposition
there is a real rapid development of this brilliant symphony.
Such great creativity!
The most powerful mental potential of man is directed
to the creation of this sonorous and bright inner life.
Most importantly, comfortable and always safe.
A person lives in it, proud and satisfied with the result of the work done.
And here comes the most interesting part.
He is eager to show his precious creation to the world.
How else? Any pagan god needs adherents.
And now, this invented lie finds its admirers.
No, not because other people have the same substitution,
but because human beings are mostly naive,
and the more convincingly built, beautiful and intricate
ideas in their design - the more attractive they are to others.
Unfortunately, not everyone doubts
exposure to something before taking it.
And here it is easy to be deceived, because not many people are able to distinguish
not that the purity of a 25-carat diamond from a skillful fake,
but even costume jewelry from precious metals!
Especially if a lot of effort was put into its creation.
As they say, if the devil were ugly, everyone would run away from him.
But still, as we get closer to such an impact,
some people can recognize the fake
and fall out of the ranks of the manipulated.
Just leaving a reasonable distance, you can always see
that the outer side of human life is too different from what
how a person presents himself to others.
Beautiful ideas contrast with the squalor of life as an external process.
This is always visible on closer inspection. Inconsistencies, paradoxes.
Reasonable question:
if you have the courage to "enlighten the masses"
why doesn't it work in your life?
This question will always remain in such a case.
without a clear answer.

The correctness of your life position is always checked by
Are you able to answer the questions clearly and simply?
If not, if instead of an answer - ornate and not achieve clarity,
then words that are not supported by the result,
physical consequence have no weight. At all.
Fog over the Seine - and nothing more.
And by the way, these are the people who like to write slogans on red rags.
their developing flags.
And here is one of them: "Life WITHOUT regrets."
It is understandable, for them, any look back -
it is a transformation into a pillar of salt.
Therefore, they need to create fulcrum for life
his fragile, puny being.

And now for regrets.
Regret is good, you know.
Regret is the memory of mistakes.
Sometimes annoying, sometimes painful or ridiculous.
But it is this memory that gives us the opportunity to understand and draw conclusions,
to evolve and move on
(movement is life, remember?) to move without the burden of heavy memories.
It happens like this:
we evaluate the past, draw a beautiful label for it
(systematicity is a guarantee of order) and we send it carefully
on the shelf of his storage, which each of us has provided.
After all, what is lived through cannot be thrown away, erased, paid off, renounced.
It is. Our baggage, acquired, acquired forever.
You have to take it as a given.
We can convince ourselves of anything, deceive that there is nothing and never was,
or was such as it is easier and more convenient for us to consider it.
But the past will find us anyway. And in its only real form,
in which we brought him into the world.
For our own good, for our mental health, we must remember EVERYTHING, such
what it was and what it has become over time
(everything that happened tends to keep its mark inside us),
we don't have to fight the obvious and try to shove it down a deep hole
physical evidence of our imperfections.
After all, in order to do this, you still need to dig it, a hole,
and this is - oh, how painful! - to dig inside yourself in a living way.
There are mistakes. And even irreparable.
To regret it is a normal reaction of a spiritually healthy person.
To regret means to acknowledge.
The only way.
The sooner we understand this, the easier it will be for us to breathe,
the freer our life will be.
And we can painlessly live in reality
strengthened, strong, courageous, not hiding in illusions.

If you once came to the conclusion that life is somehow going wrong: you have a lot of problems, perhaps poor health...

If you once came to the conclusion that life is going somehow wrong: you have a lot of problems, perhaps poor health, and also maybe you are not living your life, then it is time to “clean up and prioritize”.

I will tell you what steps to take. There are several excellent ways and methods for this. One of important points in this process - this is a natural visualization, i.e. on paper and honestly.

Wheel of Life Balance

So, let's draw a wheel of life balance. We divide the wheel into areas that are somehow present in your life: family, work, health, appearance, self-realization - everything that comes to your mind, and everything that exists today. The result should be a kind of "pie" from the spheres of life.

Each "piece" of the pie must be evaluated on a 10-point scale, that is, how satisfied you are with each of the areas of life. Look at this wheel and at the degree of satisfaction, it is already very evident in itself.

Further, after your assessment on a ten-point scale, see which of the areas of life, if it had about 10 points, would be able to advance all your other areas to the maximum, i.e. which one would be the leader?

Eisenhower Matrix

Now let's put aside our wheel of life balance for now and use the Eisenhower matrix. Usually it is used for business, but it is also suitable for our purposes.

It has 4 squares:

• important, urgent
• no matter, urgent
• important, not urgent
• not urgent, doesn't matter.

For example, work, in which square would you put it: important-urgent, not important-urgent, but where would the family go? That is, the task here is to distribute your areas into the appropriate squares of urgency and importance.

Next, look, the area that is the mostadvancing, in which square is it now? Is it in the square of importance? If at the first stage all spheres were marked honestly, as it really is in life, then at this stage it should also be in the sphere of importance, if not, then there is reason to speculate why this happened?

If, for example, at the first stage, “work” became a promotional area, and at the second stage, it did not fall into the “important-urgent” or “important-non-urgent” square. Ask yourself the question: is it important? And the promoter?

The task is to choose the sphere that, according to your inner feelings, will fall in both stages into the promoting sphere and into the important square.

According to this principle, usually in business business people can wisely allocate their time and tasks.

Ideally, you should live in the “important-non-urgent” square, as this gives you the opportunity to live at a comfortable pace and do important things.

If, for example, your “income” falls into the “important-non-urgent” square, you can easily take care of your family, or a hobby, or generally look away own business, because stable income allows you to safely move in this direction.

But the “important-urgent” square makes you live in a constant “fire” and solve important tasks right away, in a hurry. Here is the same “income”, if it falls into the “urgent-important” square, you have no opportunity for free decisions, you cannot choose a business you like, you need to choose a job that brings income, sometimes without pleasure.

You have already determined where your main area is, now you need to think about how to move it to the “important-non-urgent” square. This will help you extract maximum benefit from being in this area, to get complete pleasure, not to rush anywhere.

If your family fell into the "important-urgent" square. What problem needs to be solved in the family so that it can move into the “important-non-urgent” comfort square?

If “health” falls into the urgent square, what needs to be done in the near future and continue to do in the future so that it is also in the comfort square?

Pyramid of logical levels of Dilts

It is also important to think about what is the very first step you can take to get your essential (promoting) area to 10 points, i.e. to the maximum.

To what extent can your environment and abilities help you with this?

Ask yourself what actions you should take tomorrow to move in this direction?

If you do these things, who will you feel like? What feelings will you have?

And lastly, if you take this step:

What will become possible in your life then? What will change?

And when you understand what will change in your life, see what your attitude will be, who can you become then?

What abilities will you gain and how will your environment change?

When there is a feeling of dissatisfaction, there is no energy and motivation for action, very often this means that we are not where we need to be.

As practice has shown, not everyone understands this immediately. Therefore, it is worth immediately using the visual tools described above to see the whole picture as it really is, and not sit in conjectures and suspicions.

The time of reassessment of values ​​is something that sooner or later comes to everyone. published

Psychologists say: to be happy, you need to live here and now, enjoy life and love it. Time is a relative concept and in fact a person lives all the time only in present moment, it is pointless to look back, what was, is gone. But life is finite. Someday, anyway, there will come a moment when all of it (for a single individual) will be in the past. How to live life, so that later you do not regret what you have done or, on the contrary, what has not happened?

Top 5 things people most often regret

The sooner a person asks the question “How to live life so as not to regret later?”, The sooner he will be able to correct the mistakes of the past or accept and let them go if nothing can be corrected.

No matter how old a person is, he already has a past. Many have something to regret already at a fairly young age. A youth- the time when a person makes the greatest number of life mistakes. The older he gets, the wiser and more careful he makes decisions.

While a person is young, he tries to drive away disturbing thoughts from himself, such as: “I did or am doing something that I will regret later.” In youth, youth, and even in adulthood, it still seems that there is a whole life ahead. For some, the understanding that there is still so much to come is painted in positive tones (“I still have time to do everything! I can do everything!”), For others, it is negative (“I still have to endure and suffer all this for so long!”). But both the first and second cases are an illusion.

Life- this is what is happening here and now, and not some specific time period. As a result, a person measures his life not by the years lived, but by the events events. It seems that when life was boring or sad, it didn’t exist at all, but the real “live” life- this is a successful, happy life, the way it should have been, according to the personality.

Various scientists (psychologists, psychiatrists, sociologists, philosophers) in different years studied the issue of the occurrence of regret about the past. Recent research by an American journalist, psychoanalyst and psychiatrist Gale Soltz showed that most of all people regret about 5 things:

1. Interrupted, lost, missed romantic relationships. When it was not possible, did not work out or did not want to make enough efforts to save love, it often happens to regret it later. Relationships are work. No need to let them drift or ignore them, believing that everything is already so good.

G. Solts notes that often people miss the chance to become happy in their personal lives because of the desire to build a career.

1. Lack of friendship. As we age, it gets harder to find a true friend, which is why people often regret not finding, looking for, or losing their best friend.
2. Neglect of health and exercise. People regret that they led an inactive lifestyle, did not pay enough attention, took poor care of their bodies, ignored signs of illness, and were not treated on time. Health is very difficult to regain, but not so difficult to maintain.

It is important to understand that regular physical activity allows you to maintain youth and health, not only bodily, physical, but also mental, that is, psychological. And this is a scientifically proven fact! In March 2016, scientists were able to find out that regular exercise delays brain aging by as much as 10 years!

It is impossible to insure against mistakes, and it is not necessary! No matter how much sadness, grief, disappointment they carry, they make up experience. And experience, whatever it may be, is always useful, it teaches, teaches and helps to form life principles, priorities, goals, attitude towards oneself, others, the world, in general, the orientation of the individual.

How to live without regrets?

To learn how to live in such a way that you do not regret anything and do not regret later, you need to ask yourself now question:“When I am a deep old man, what will I regret from what I have already done or not done?”. There will surely be an answer.

There are not so many life circumstances that would be difficult to change. Sometimes, in order to correct the mistake of a lifetime, it is enough to ask for forgiveness or forgive yourself, say something important or finally hear what another says, leave or return, act reasonably, honestly,
justly, kindly, or to refrain from a dishonorable act.

Based on the five most common human regrets, we can conclude that important:

• cherish, cherish and work on friendships, love, family relationships;
• take care of your health, lead an active lifestyle;
• get rid of anxieties, worries and fears, increase stress resistance, learn to take risks, be courageous, self-confident.

To avoid doing things that you will regret need to be able:

• listen to yourself
• understand what is “mine” and what is “not mine”,
• not to go and fight against yourself, for the sake of someone,
• love yourself and people, be kind to the world.

Rarely remember their lives with regret People:

• who creatively approached its creation (starting with setting their own goals and ending with a creative approach in raising a child),
• striving for self-expression, self-realization,
• those who led an active life, took care of physical health and psychological well-being,
• solve all your problems in time,
• able to be friends and love.

Of course, learning to live in such a way as not to regret anything is a difficult task and hardly 100% feasible, but it is possible to learn not to make those serious mistakes that you later have to bitterly regret and repent of!

The right thoughts that help a person move forward in life, create, create something new without stopping for a moment, can prevent the potential danger of regret. Everyone is familiar with the phrase “If only…” that people say when they realize what they have missed in their lives. Not only in the movies, but also in real life, you can see how a person changes when, for example, he is diagnosed with a fatal disease.

Knowing that there is very little time left to live, patients tend to have time to do everything that they have been putting off for later for many years or simply doubted the need for any desired actions. Looking back at their lives and comparing it with the last weeks or months, such people begin to realize that they could have done much more if only they knew that death was approaching.

Life is short. But, as a rule, a person realizes this too late, when all that remains is to regret the lost time. Approaching the end of life, involuntarily everyone thinks about its beginning. So let today be that start. You need to forget about the past, about your age and just start living. This article explores nine ways you can prevent the experience of devastating excuses, apologies, and, most importantly, regrets.

Choose your own path

You need to stop living by the opinions of other people. Stop living for them. It's time to start your own journey in which you will be yourself. There are many cases when a talented creative person cannot fully express himself, realize his ideas and dreams. As a rule, this happens due to the influence of other people, as well as due to their own fears.

This needs to be overcome. When you need to go against the opinions of others, do it. Be confident in yourself, in your actions. Swim against the current if your nature requires it. Do what you are interested in.You need to let others live their petty lives, suffer from minor problems, and not let the same happen to you. You don't have to let everything go by itself. You must determine your own path, without putting your own future in the hands of other people.

Reasonable risk

Life is not long enough long years remain an amateur. You can live all the allotted time sitting in the nest. And you can experience the greatness and freedom of flight. So spread your wings and take off. Feel the power and beauty of your possibilities. Feel your potential. Otherwise, regret at a later age will inevitably overtake you.

It will be a regret that you never opened your wings. You don't have to think too much before taking the next step. It is only important to try to do everything to the maximum high level until you get the required experience. Over time, this experience will allow you to become a real professional.

Believe in yourself

In the absence of any difficulties and problems, it is very difficult for a person to change. Any "shake-ups" contribute to the growth and development of the individual. When you set a goal for yourself, you may find that the plan to achieve it seems difficult. The main thing is to take the first step. The second and third steps will already be much easier. So, gradually, you will move closer and closer to your goal. You have to believe that you can overcome anything. Such unconditional faith in yourself will surely lead to success.

New day - next step

You need to be able to withstand all the ups and downs that you will meet along the way. Everyone lives and learns at the same time. Man is imperfect, therefore mistakes and failures are inevitable. At the same time, it is important to remember that you are doing everything for the sake of what you love. Therefore, the possible trials that will bring a feeling of pain are nothing compared to unforgettable moments of joy and love. Go forward despite the pain and setbacks. The inner strength that got you to this point will guide you the rest of the way.

No - thoughts of disappointment

What has been done and experienced in the past should not interfere in any way with acting now. You must not allow the sad negative experience you have experienced to limit you in anything, break your hopes and destroy your faith. Life is really not perfect. There are many things in the world that can cause disappointment. You should always remember: everything is done for the better. Therefore, if what is happening is different from what you expected it to be, keep in mind that everything can be much better than it seems at first glance.

Here and now

Dreams of another time and place should occupy a minimal part of life. All people want to be happy. But for some reason, many expect their happiness from somewhere outside. As a rule, at a young age, people live in the future, dreaming of their own family, a good job, and so on. And in old age, a person tends to live in the past, believing that happiness remains there.

Both options are wrong. Life and happiness is only here and now. Understanding this fact is an important step towards happy life without regrets and war with oneself. Right now, there are reasons to smile. Right now you have many opportunities. So don't lose them by dreaming about what isn't there.

Think Positive

Positive thinking is this: you should think about what you have, not about what you don't have or what you are missing. The reason for suffering, feeling unhappy, often lies not in the situation, but in relation to it. A day without laughter and doing good deeds can be considered lost. Even if unforeseen difficulties and problems arise, there are always various small opportunities that can make the day better.

Share your love

Sooner or later, each of us will have to say goodbye to loved ones. The eternal problem of man is the lack of time. No matter how long you live with your close loved ones, time will always be missed. Show your love, share it while you can. Do not be embarrassed to start sincere conversations with your loved ones, to share the innermost. Otherwise, losing loved ones, you will regret the unsaid.

Goodbye for a new hello

Saying goodbyes is a gift that helps to carry out the steps of life. If someone leaves you, say goodbye to that person. Don't beg him to stay. Accept the fact of parting as a necessity for future blessings. Just understand that the time has come for the changes in your life that are needed for further development and personal growth.

To make this happen, know that every goodbye carries a new hello. The fleeting pain of parting cannot be compared with the future joy of a new meeting, acquaintances. No need to mourn the loss. Release the person.

Now try to understand all the above tips. It is very important to keep this information in mind at all times. Only through this awareness can you protect your life from negative experiences, fears and regrets. Try to answer the questions: what do you want not to regret on some day of your life? What should be done to avoid regretting it? Do it today. Do it right now.