Quotes about those who do not appreciate. People do not appreciate a good attitude: aphorisms and quotes

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Especially for our readers, we have selected the 30 best quotes of the week.

1. Don't complain about life - someone dreams of the life you live.

2. The basic rule of life is not to let yourself be broken by either people or circumstances.

3. Never show a man how much you need him. You won't see anything good in return.

4. You can not expect from a person what is unusual for him. You don't squeeze a lemon to get tomato juice.

5. After the rain, a rainbow always comes, after tears - happiness.

6. One day, by chance, you will be at the right time in the right place, and millions of roads will converge at one point.

7. What you believe in becomes your world.

8. A diamond that has fallen into the mud still remains a diamond, and dust that has risen to heaven remains dust.

9. They don’t call, they don’t write, they aren’t interested - that means they don’t need it. Everything is simple and there is nothing to invent here.

10. I know people are not saints. Sins are prescribed by fate. For me, it's better to be honestly evil than people with false kindness!

11. Be like a lotus, which is always pure and blooms even in troubled waters.

12. And God forbid everyone to be with those with whom the heart does not seek others.

13. No best place than a house, especially if there is a mother in it.

14. People are constantly inventing problems for themselves. Why not make yourself happy?

15. It hurts - this is when a child wants to go to mom and dad, but they are not. The rest can be experienced.

16. Happiness is near ... Do not invent ideals for yourself ... Appreciate what you have.

17. Never lie to someone who trusts you. Never trust someone who lied to you.

18. Mom, even if she is prickly, is still the best!

19. Distances should not be afraid. And far away you can love deeply, and near you can quickly part.

20. I always consider the last book I read to be the best until I take on something new.

21. We give children LIFE, and they give us MEANING!

22. Happy man- this is the one who does not regret the past, is not afraid of the future and does not climb into someone else's life.

23. Pain sometimes goes away, but thoughts remain.

24. How much wisdom is needed to never lose kindness!

25. After giving up on me once, don't interfere in my life again. Never.

26. Appreciate the one who cannot live without you. And do not chase those who are happy without you.

27. Remember: you attract what you believe in!

28. Only one thing you can regret in life - that you once never took a chance.

29. The most natural thing in this world is change. The living cannot be frozen.

30. A wise man was asked: “What should you do if you are out of love?”

"Take your soul and leave," he replied.

Time passes, but one thing remains the same: people do not appreciate good relationship. It is worth once to come to someone's aid, as a person will have to do it all the time: refusals are not accepted. Although gratitude for a good attitude sometimes happens, but this is the exception rather than the rule. Surely everyone is familiar with the gospel story about how Jesus healed 10 sick people, but only one thanked him. And this is far from the first evidence of human ingratitude.

An innate property of higher animals

The question of why people do not value a good relationship has been answered not only by psychologists, moralists and researchers of ethical sciences, but also by ordinary scientists, in particular, zoologists. So, Konrad Lorenz, an Austrian zoologist and animal psychologist, shed some light on the cause of human ingratitude. He studied the behavior of animals for a long time and came to the conclusion that aggression is an innate quality of higher animals.

There is also intraspecific aggression, when members of the same species attack their own kind when they enter their territory. This behavior helps to survive in wild nature.

Invasion and Morality

Even without a scientific basis, it is easy to determine that intraspecific aggression is also characteristic of people, they just call it differently - competitive fight. For example, in one city there are two photo studios. They are located in different parts of the city, and the owners are even friends. But if one of them opens his studio next to a competitor, then a fierce struggle and poaching of customers will begin, because such an act is an encroachment on someone else's territory.

A simple conclusion suggests itself from this: by nature, a person is evil, but at the same time a social being. To survive, he needs to learn to exist with his own kind, so there is morality, rules of conduct and other laws in society. To reduce someone's aggression, people try to express submissiveness. And the conclusion that suggests itself: gratitude and a good attitude are perceived as weakness. Everyone expects to be treated well, but no one wants to do it in return.

A person, doing good to someone, transcends his natural egoism and wants this “sacrifice” to be appreciated. If someone sees a good attitude towards himself, he feels his superiority. And it feeds the ego. That's why people don't appreciate a good relationship.

How to respond to ingratitude?

It has long been known that people do not value a good relationship. And during this time, a lot of sayings have accumulated. they say that it is impossible to provide services where they are not asked.

Treat others the way they treat you.

Don't do favors that you're not asked for.

Do good and throw it into the water.

Praises, like gold and diamonds, are valuable only when they are rare.

Do not look for scoundrels, meanness is committed by good people.

Despite the fact that a person is a rational being and must act rationally, most human actions are performed under the influence of instincts, and not reason. Since everyone has instincts, but fate has deprived someone of upbringing and prudence.

From Shakespeare

Well, with science and instincts figured out, it's time to move on to philosophy, ethics and aesthetics. Let's start with Shakespeare. Another famous playwright of the past asked the question:

Is there anything more monstrous than the ingratitude of man?

Unfortunately, he was never able to answer it. People did not appreciate and do not appreciate a good attitude, neither then nor now. It is worth helping someone disinterestedly, as instead of gratitude, a person is obliged to help constantly. No wonder they say that if you help someone a couple of times, someone's legs immediately begin to hang from their necks. People take kindness for granted and get very offended when they have to be rejected.

Goethe once said that ingratitude is a common weakness. Outstanding people will never allow themselves to be ungrateful. In any case, they will find a way to thank the one who helped them, and they will never forget the service rendered to them.

No fool and life is bad

There are many aphorisms about when people do not appreciate a good attitude. One of them is worth highlighting:

There must always be fools in the world who sacrifice their personal interests in the name of the public, receiving reproach and ingratitude in return (Alexander Hamilton).

It is possible that if everyone was engaged exclusively in their own affairs, then there would be no society as such. Perhaps anarchy would reign everywhere, people would look at each other like a wolf and would see their enemy in everyone they met. Only due to the fact that there are people who will not spare themselves for the benefit of others, society somehow resembles a civilized society. But even here there are many unpleasant situations that cannot be dealt with.

When they don't appreciate

People don't appreciate a good relationship. Quotations on this occasion can be given not one or two. The most unpleasant thing is when for the sake of another person you have to do unseemly, sometimes even illegal actions.

Ingratitude never hurts the human heart more than when it comes from people for whose sake we have decided on an unseemly act (Henry Fielding, "The Story of Tom Jones").

It is said that the victors do not tend to remember those who cleared the path to the throne for them with swords. This truth is as old as the world, but not a single ruler has yet disdained it.

A demonstrative gratitude, a few words, a diploma, a medal or a posthumous speech are formalities, not gratitude. Indeed, the game will go on until the king falls, no matter how many pawns lie at his throne. But one day fate will begin to take revenge, and then the one who did not know how to appreciate a good attitude towards himself will be in the place of the one whom he offended. Life is impossibly wise, so do not get hung up on the bad, one day everything will fall into place, the mosaic will work out and everything will be as it should be. The main thing is not to forget to thank fate for this.

The life of every person is moderately difficult and moderately good. The most important thing is to be able to extract the experience that they bring to us various situations so that they do not repeat in the future, or vice versa - they repeat if these are good situations. We have collected phrases that will be useful to you in different occasions.

• My life is a train. In my best moments, it seemed to me that I was in control of it. At worst, I imagined myself as a passenger. And sometimes I realize that I'm lying on the rails.
• Appreciate people who can see three things in you: the sadness behind the smile, the love behind the anger, and the reason for your silence.
• Learn to ignore people who don't like you. Because people who don't like you are of two types: they are either stupid or envious. Fools will love you in a year, and envious people will die without knowing the secret of your superiority over them.
• Treasure every second of life, love - love, miss - say, hate - forget, do not waste time on hatred, because there is so little time for life ...
• While you are considering whether you are on the way with a person or not on the way, he has time to change his mind about going somewhere with you ...
• Strong people speak with their eyes. Weak people open their dirty mouth behind their backs. When suddenly the desire to live is gone ...
• When life hurts from all sides... And everything suddenly becomes indifferent to the heart... Be patient and believe that all this will pass!
• Do not be afraid to lose those who are not afraid to lose you.
• What is wealth? Wealth is the health of the mother, respect from the father, the loyalty of friends and the love of a dear person.
• Fate is not a matter of chance, but a matter of choice. It doesn't have to wait, it has to be created.
• If a smart thought came and you are looking for where to write it down - this is an aphorism, and if you think how to implement it - this is really a smart idea.
• Do not listen to anyone, have your own opinion, your head, your thoughts and ideas, plans for life. Never run after anyone. Go your own way, no matter what they say behind your back. They talked, they talk and always will talk. That should not be of your concerns. Love. Create. Dream and smile more often.
• A man who gave his woman wings will never wear horns!
• You don't have to be afraid of anything. Take risks even if you make a mistake. That's life.
• Before you pour out your soul, make sure that the "vessel" does not leak.
• Not necessarily a person who raised a son, built a house, planted a tree - a real man. Very often this is an ordinary woman.
• Clever thoughts come only when all the stupid things have already been done.
• You will meet in 25 years the one whom you considered a prince at 18 ... and you understand - what a blessing it is that he galloped on his horse ... PAST!
• How fate will turn out, no one knows. Live freely and don't be afraid of change. When the Lord takes something away, don't miss out on what he gives in return.
• Do not be afraid to give warming words, And do good deeds. The more wood you put into the fire, the more heat will return. (Omar Khayyam)
• There is such a category of people who will always love you despite your difficult character .. so appreciate them.
• No matter how strong a woman is, she waits for a man stronger than herself ... and not so that he restricts her freedom, but so that he gives her the right to be weak

Don't forget to tell your loved ones how much they are dear to you. Give them enough attention. Your relationship may end someday, but just because something doesn't last forever doesn't mean it's not worth spending time on.

If you're not sure if it's love

This is Love? Or just affection?

Almost all of us have friends who jump from relationship to relationship, and each time they assure that they "absolutely and unconditionally love."

For those of us who have been out of relationships for longer than the duration of their several relationships combined, it is completely incomprehensible how someone could "love" so many people at once.

I mean, let's be honest. This is not love. It's the fear of being alone. So right?
Yes and no. It's all about how we feel.

But what if our senses are deceiving us? What if we're just scared as hell of being alone, so anyone who gives us the slightest sense of security and comfort immediately passes for a kindred spirit?

Do you know that insight when, after a few months after a breakup, it becomes difficult to believe that you even said these three magic words to someone with whom today you would not even want to be around?

And it's impossible to understand how I could love someone so ridiculous? Someone so unsuitable? So superficial?

Well, it just wasn't love. It was affection.

I don't know for sure if your love is real or if it's a relationship for the sake of a relationship, but I can show you a few general indicators. These are the nuances to point out to a friend when he or she seems to be getting too attached to a one-night stand.

Because you certainly would not want to attend a wedding where one of the newlyweds would say “he / she is always there” as the reason for the event. And if you doubt the motives of your own love, just go over these 6 points to determine if your efforts are worth the time invested.

Love is passion; affection - indifference

This is about breakup behavior. They say that the feeling closest to love is a feeling of hatred, which is why after a break, all that beautiful, sincere love turns into rage and passionate, unaccountable hatred.

When you are just attached to a person, you will never get so angry. You will be overwhelmed by anxiety or irritation, but these anxious feelings will not lead you to something as strong and meaningful as real hatred.

Love is unconditional; attachment is self-centered

When you love, all your thoughts are devoted to this person. For the first time in their lives, someone else's needs come before yours.

The only reason you buy a new bed is because you now have someone to share it with. Everything you do for your partner has a little to do with your satisfaction.